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Typically, people dread holiday business events because it is not business as usual and definitely not social.  The rules, so clear to us when we are in our cubicles, become a blur.  During these events, there is often alcohol flowing liberally and staff appears to be enjoying themselves, even freely talking to the boss.  Yet, deep inside we know this is not an outing with our friends.  This is just another way for people to judge how well we perform.  Perform well, and we will receive some sort of recognition; perform badly and it is back to square one.  Plus-Ones? It is no less tricky for the tag-a-long date .  The date knows he/she needs to look sharp, be a good conversationalist, and make a good impression.  And we all know how difficult this is to accomplish when we don’t know these people well and the stakes are high.  How do you compliment people, listen intently, and smile as if your face will break and not seem condesce...

No Secret Santa For Me!  Dear Polite One, I don't want to participate in the "Secret Santa" at work.  Christmas or any of the holidays mean nothing to me.  How can I state that I do not want to participate?  If I must be involved, what sorts of gifts are appropriate?   Sincerely, Scrooge Dear Scrooge, It's perfectly fine to state that you don't want to participate.  You'd have to tell the organizer of the event well before the draw.  Perhaps you could speak to this person privately, so you won't even be approached.  If you are somewhat bullied into it (hopefully not), a price guideline should be suggested to all involved.  From there, give a gender-neutral gift like a coffee shop gift card, music download code, a pair of wool gloves, or a small box of candy (anything similar).    Sincerely, The Polite One More by The Polite One     Interview: business meals & handshakes The Importance of an...

Dear Rebecca I've been invited to a holiday company party that is being hosted by the general manager at his home. Should I bring a hostess gift ? Employee Baring Gifts Dear Employee Baring Gifts, The hostess deserves a little something and wine is usually very appropriate, especially for evening events. The only exception with taking wine as a gift would be if liquor is frowned upon in your organization. But since it is a holiday party at someone's home.  Wine, flowers, plants, and books are also good gifts. Sincerely, Rebecca More by Rebecca How to Eat Difficult Foods at a Business or Social Function How to Dress for Business Cruise? When is it Appropriate to Give Gifts to Supervisors