How can I state that I do not want to participate?

No Secret Santa For Me!

Dear Polite One,

I don't want to participate in the "Secret Santa" at work. Christmas or any of the holidays mean nothing to me. How can I state that I do not want to participate? If I must be involved, what sorts of gifts are appropriate?

Sincerely,

Scrooge

Dear Scrooge,

It's perfectly fine to state that you don't want to participate. You'd have to tell the organizer of the event well before the draw. Perhaps you could speak to this person privately, so you won't even be approached. If you are somewhat bullied into it (hopefully not), a price guideline should be suggested to all involved. From there, give a gender-neutral gift like a coffee shop gift card, music download code, a pair of wool gloves, or a small box of candy (anything similar).

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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